The Life of a Gamer Girlfriend

Yes, you read that right. I’m changing this post up a bit with more about my personal life. I know I post those from time to time but usually its short tidbits, well this time it’s going a little more in-depth for a change of pace and a chance to expand my writing to more than just sports. Everyone needs a change once in a while, right?

So as you read in the title, the life of a gamer girlfriend.. hmm how to describe it.. well awesome would be a good place. So, as many of you know, I’ve been with my boyfriend Jesse for going on 4 years now and I love him more and more everyday. He as you can guess, is a huge gamer and I knew that from the start. Trust me, when we first started dating, I was so lost in the gaming world it was incredible. I had played some but not nearly what he had. I felt so lost. As time went on, I started trying games and sometimes felt really dumb because I wouldn’t get very far and I felt like I would never accomplish it, dying like 30 times in Call of Duty didn’t help. Games are a challenge my friends, even if they don’t seem like it, they are. Well, Jesse was very helpful in my interest in gaming and allowed me to play on his Xbox whenever he wasn’t, so I started getting better even when I was super frustrated. I would never accept his help hahaha, well I would but I had to do it myself, with him telling me how, not him doing it for me. We both got frustrated on that part but I’m a person who has to do it themselves when it comes to gaming, I think my playing hockey had something to do with that.

More time passed and this past Christmas, Jesse bought me an Xbox 360 and thus I became an official gamer girlfriend. I always had been but only on his console and not my own. It was quite a shock and I will admit I had tears in my eyes that Jes would spend that much of his paycheck on a gift for me! I mean I know I’m his girlfriend but jeez. So, I bought GTAV and some NHL games and started my own adventure into the gaming realm. It’s been an interesting adventure so far but I will admit I”m hooked on something I thought was silly not that long ago. Games do really help with relieving stress and being in your own world. You can just relax and have fun with friends or try to accomplish something on your own, whatever you want to do. Call of Duty is now one of my favorite games, which seems weird for me to say haha.

Now that you’ve heard from my gamer side, it’s time to get to the girlfriend part of that equation. Well, dating someone who is a gamer is just as challenging as the games themselves. A lot of times I’m still lost on what he’s talking about when it comes to new games or even games that have existed for years. You have to remember, I played hockey for 10 years and was in marching band for 7 so I didn’t really have a lot of free time for video games, not that I had the opportunities for them either. I’m slowly entering the world of gaming, I still get really confused on certain areas like how to fight and my driving is progressively getting better in GTAV, I used to be terrible. I also had a lot of trouble not giving Jesse crap for losing or dying in the game, I never knew how annoying that could be until I was on the other end of it. It really is annoying and I got as frustrated as Jesse did when I was told it was just a game. Well, yes it’s just a game but when you invest that much time into it, the challenge becomes embedded and you have to beat it or you feel defeated. Similar to hockey when you are so close to winning but it’s just out of reach and when you finally get there, it’s a huge accomplishment, gaming is the same.

Another aspect of being the girlfriend of a gamer is the time constraints haha. I used to get frustrated whenever Jesse wanted to try a new game or play one that I didn’t have because I thought it took time away from us, instead it gives us time to be together, just not doing the same things; which is okay.  I’ll read a book or fall asleep with him next to me, playing his game and I love it that way. It’s the best of both worlds for the two of us. When we want to do different things, we can and still be in the same room, it makes us a better couple if that makes sense. I’ve learned to love Jesse’s love of games because it makes him, him. He loves me for my love of hockey because that’s who I am and I love his passion for games because that’s who he is. Being passionate about something is a great thing to see in someone, (as long as its legal haha). Seeing his frustrations turn to celebrations when he wins an exceptionally hard part of a game, is so cool to watch. It reminds me of my days in hockey and band when I would practice and practice and finally do it right. But seeing it in someone you love is a gift that I never want to lose. I know I’m going in-depth but that was my point with this post. For those of you that have a significant other, make sure not to overlook that part, it’s an amazing thing to see your partner accomplish something they’ve worked hard at for so long, and yes video games do count.

I used to hate gaming and never wanted to be a part of it, until I met Jesse. He showed me the good side to gaming, and yes it can be bad in too much intake but for the most part it’s a good thing. You are still capable of making your own choices, the game doesn’t choose for you like those in the media world that claim games make people do things… they don’t. I’ve played games on and off for a few years now and have no negative side effects, in fact my stress goes away when I play because I can forget everything and just have fun with my boyfriend and our friends online. Sure, we blow up cars and stuff but it’s all fake! It’s the safer alternative then going out and doing it for real. You can get your aggression out in a fake world instead of the real world and that’s the way I’d rather see it and you also learn to save up your money for something you really want, granted it’s fake but you still get the idea of saving up for something. . So for me, games have been a good thing.

So being a gamer girlfriend has its ups and downs and I know this post was a little of everything but that’s what I aim for. To show a bunch of different sides of a story. I love being a gamer girlfriend and I wouldn’t have any other way. Sure, we spend time on games when we are together but that still builds us as a couple, we don’t have to be in the same place 24/7, we can still have fun while in an online world. So, I love gaming and I love my man and of course hockey haha. Thanks for reading! Maybe my next post will be about how Jes and I started dating 🙂 That’s one he loves to share 😉 The picture I chose to share is one that shows are gamer attitudes haha Just kidding, I loved the look of it even though it’s old so I figured what the heck why not!




Another Few Issues

So this is an issue I first learned about while in school. I was taking a Sports Management class and this issue came up with several very good points on both sides of the argument. I disagree and agree with the idea of athletes getting paid. On one side, they don’t have the time or ability to go out and get a job like other non-athletes so they don’t’ have as much money available to them even with scholarships. On the other side, the non-athletes don’t have the option to be a part of the sports and get some of the advantages that athletes get. There are two sides to this story as all stories have. I’m going to try to keep this section short because it has already gone through and now it’s just up to schools if they want to participate or not. I, mostly agree with this idea because if you look on the side of athletes, they are basically working a job (yes, playing a sport) that takes away their opportunity to work a regular job that would earn money. I do realize they make that choice but why should they have to choose that or money. As long as it’s a small amount of money to just help them get by, I understand it. Let me know what you guys think of this idea! The article is listed below.

The next issue I would like to discuss is the idea that I read in my textbook recently and has been an issue for a number of years. The idea that hockey needs fighting. IT DOESN’T! I personally do not like to watch a hockey game and see a fight or two or three break out during the action of the game. It’s not a good thing to teach kids and it’s just not a part of hockey. I know it has a long standing in hockey but come on people, times change, let’s get out of the “we have to fight to show we’re tough” idea and move on to the “skills, finesse and talent wins games” idea. I’ve never liked fighting in hockey and I’m sorry but if fighting was meant to be in hockey, it wouldn’t be called hockey, it would be called fighting. Unlike several NHL broadcasters who say it belongs in the game and that those reporters who say it doesn’t never played the game, I have news for them. If you haven’t noticed that the number of players suing the NHL for injuries related to fighting has been growing dramatically over the years, something is wrong with you. I know the players agree to fight but do you really think they pay attention to the fact they could regret that in the next few years? They just want to play in the way they have been taught.

I don’t think you kick enforcers out of the league, you just teach them to utilize the other skills they have besides the ability to fight. If you are a good coach you can always find a use for a player and I mean other uses besides fighting. Maybe, they are good at blocking ht net, or blocking shots. Give them a chance to get out of the fighting scene since thankfully the fighting has gone down in recent years as well. I won’t be satisfied until it is out of the game entirely but hopefully it will be gone sooner rather than later and spare the lives of other players.

Well that’s it for now. Thanks for reading, STATE FAIR TOMORROW 😀


The Nickname debate continues

So this post comes about after reading an article about the nickname at UND. I will include the link below but basically the article states that UND has no right to the Fighting Sioux nickname because they were not founded by Fighting Sioux Native Americans. Well guess what, the SCSU Huskies were not founded by actual Huskies… the U of M was not founded by Gophers and I could go on and on. My main point is that the writer of this article didn’t even go to UND and isn’t even from North Dakota. I know the great thing about writing is that you can write about anything and everything you want, however you may need to make your decisions wisely and write about things you know. I get writing based on opinion which is what I do a lot but my problem with this is that I am directly involved being a student at UND and the nickname debate has been very difficult for many students. Just because the founders weren’t Native Americans doesn’t mean they can’t use the name. It was approved long ago and yes it has been fought over for years but the one thing this writer is forgetting is that he never went to games and saw how much tradition the school had for the nickname. People were proud of the name.. they didn’t disgrace it. I really don’t get why he is so upset about the name when he isn’t even involved. Here’s an idea, let UND figure it out and just stay out of it because your argument really doesn’t work.

I may seem a little upset over this, but in my opinion I have a right to be, when I chose to go to UND as an incoming student I was excited to become a Fighting Sioux and to learn all about the background of the nickname and to wear it proudly. Yes, there are cases where people have been dumb surrounding the name, but that’s every college campus. College kids can be downright stupid, guess what, that happens! The people who are truly proud of the name, call out the ones who disrespect the name and move on. The Sioux was more than just a name, it was who the students were, it connected everyone. You didn’t just go to the University of North Dakota, you went to the University of North Dakota Fighting Sioux. Fighting Sioux just became part of the name automatically over the years. On game days, those of you who aren’t a part of UND, should have seen the campus because it was basically a sea of green and black Sioux apparel. I’ve never seen a campus be so united before. The Fighting Sioux was truly a great name for the University and there were/are Native American traditions that the school has as well to represent that part of the college campus.

One other piece of news that upsets me is the possibility of UND’s teams getting in trouble over students cheering “Fighting Sioux” or Sioux in general if other schools get upset. Um, I’m sorry but isn’t that our freedom of speech as long as it’s appropriately said. If someone just cheers Sioux what’s the problem? Even if I didn’t go to UND I would be backing the keeping of the name and I wouldn’t get upset if students cheered it. They aren’t doing anything against the law. Can’t we figure out more important things to enforce and let the students be? The NCAA really should have just stayed out of this debate, granted I don’t know the whole story but from what I’ve read from a bunch of different sources, the NCAA got involved in something that had nothing to do with them and I think it’s pretty low that they threatened our sports team’s postseason over a name. But guess what, just because you take the name off the jersey’s doesn’t mean you take the spirit out of the kids. They’ll still proudly call themselves the Fighting Sioux where they won’t get in trouble for it. I still proudly consider myself a Fighting Sioux and I always will. Just because we have to pick a new nickname doesn’t mean the greatness of tradition won’t continue. So go ahead tick us off, we’ll just continue to have a tradition of being awesome. Oh, and the school will always be referred to as UND Fighting Sioux, the name will never go away truly so make us pick a new name, but the old one will remain as well.

(The article referred to at the beginning is listed below for those of you who would like to read it)

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As many of you know, my attempt at getting my final year of schooling done has been a struggle, not because of grades but mainly because of money and having to get an internship finished. I did complete one heck of a great internship and was on course to graduate this coming December but as of now that will not be happening. I enrolled in anytime courses in late June, meaning I had up to 9 months to complete the classes but was going to attempt to get them done in two. Yeah, probably not my brightest idea but I thought I could do it. Well, it turns out trying to work 20-30 hours a week and study just doesn’t work in two months time plus getting a proctor (someone to help administer my tests) took forever and I have to wait 3-5 days for UND to approve each test so between that and the papers I have to write I decided to take more time and finish the classes without rushing. I am pretty bummed but it’s only a few more months tacked on and not a full year so there’s that. Also, I’ll have more time to save up money prior to graduating and figuring everything out from there.

I would like to thank all those closest to me who have been super supportive of me trying to study and offering to help as well as making sure I get to my tests. My family, friends and Jesse have all been very helpful and understanding of what I’m trying to get done and I’m very grateful, without their help I wouldn’t be even in school in the first place.

I am enjoying my classes, it’s just all the reading gets to be a lot so I’m taking a little time off to let my brain rest. I am learning a lot and do kind of prefer online learning to campus because I can choose when I want to study, where and how long. I don’t have to sit through a 3 hour class, I can read for a while, take a break and then start reading again. Thank goodness for no more 8am classes. I know most people have to be up earlier than that, but trying to learn that early, is a pain in the butt haha.

As for hockey news, the Wild haven’t made too many changes but I am looking forward to the upcoming season especially with some of the roster moves from other teams such as the Pittsburgh Penguins acquiring Phil Kessel (former gopher) and Matt Cullen (SCSU). The one update I haven’t seen from the Wild that I am really interested in, is what is going on with Josh Harding? He’s not listed on the Wild roster anymore because it seems that he was moved to the Iowa Wild, but I never saw an update as to how long that will be or if he’ll ever come back up.

UND is still without a nickname and I will be updating on that with another blog hopefully later today since it’s 1:30 in the morning or later in the week. Hopefully the decision is made soon and all the dumb controversies go away.

Well that’s it for now.. hopefully another update later today.